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In this post, I’ll give you my step-by-step basic method for picking up girls. It’s so simple you can start putting it into action immediately. I cover first the basic principles of pickup that form the foundation of all of this.
MEET WOMEN IN RELAXED SOCIAL LOCATIONS
Unless you want to get rudely rejected, start with welcoming environments that allow natural conversation to flow – cafes, bars, clubs, house parties, sports events, and shopping centers are all great locations to find women to talk to.
DON’T LIMIT YOURSELF TO THE NIGHTTIME
If you can pick up girls in bars and clubs there’s no reason you can’t get a girls number whilst ordering a flat white on your morning commute to work.
RESPECT HER SPACE
When you find a girl you want to approach, always assess the situation first. If she looks in a hurry or appears to be emotionally unavailable, you should respect her space. Just like we all hate to be harassed by street sellers and charity collectors, observational awareness is important.
ALWAYS SHOW CONFIDENCE
Women are primarily attracted to social power and confidence over everything. If you appear confident in your approach and be direct with your intentions you’ll have no problem picking up girls. Chatting up with girls takes balls. If you can learn to handle the pressure, you are 90% of the way over the finish line. That’s how important confidence is. It’s not necessarily what you say, it’s more about your delivery. Confidence is largely perceived non verbally, so it’s important you communicate this through your body language and voice tonality.
You also show confidence in your body language. Avoid crossing your arms and talking to the floor. Chatting up with women is supposed to be fun! By transferring over your positive emotions she’ll feel relaxed and enjoy the moment too. Smile, hold a wide stance and turn your body to face her when talking.
Voice tonality is important too. Try not to rap your words. Speak slowly and clearly. Speak up to get her attention, and don’t mumble.
Don’t pretend to be someone you’re not to impress a girl. Women are perceptive creatures and will smell a ‘fake’ a mile away. Instead, be your best self. Radiate the positive qualities you possess because self-assurance is sexy. Being fake always backfires. Always tell the truth about who you are.
DON’T FEAR REJECTION
You need to accept that you will be rejected many times. Especially when you are new at this. Even masters in the art of picking girls get rejections. Understand that it’s the man’s job to make the first move. It’s your duty as a man. And with this, you’ve got to expect to be rejected from time to time.
But it’s how you handle rejection that will define your success with picking up women. If you can bounce back from your failures, learn from your mistakes and keep practicing, you’ll slowly become desensitized to the fear of rejection and become unstoppable with women.
OK, so those are the five core concepts of whats involved. Now it’s time to give you a step-by-step breakdown of the process for picking up a girl. We’ll start with the approach and end with how you exchanging numbers.
HOW TO PICK UP A GIRL
USE A SIMPLE OPENING TO GET HER ATTENTION
There is no need to over complicate things. In the time it takes to think up a clever pickup line, you’ll probably miss the golden opportunity to approach. If you can’t think of anything to say on the spot, a simple “Hey” or “Hey, hows it going?” is all you need to start the conversation. But if possible, start with a situational opener. An example of a situational opener (if it’s cold outside) would be saying something like “Where did you get that amazing coat? I need one of those, it’s freezing today”.
Never use pick up lines. They’re borderline sleazy and a girl will instantly know your intentions. The aim of the opener is simply to grab her attention.
And adapt your opening line to the situation. Start with “Excuse me” if you approach a girl in the daytime. Women don’t expect to be chatted up during their daily routines. So it’s polite to start with “excuse me” to avoid alarming them.
ENGAGE IN A LIGHT CONVERSATION
You’ve just met the girl so avoid asking interview-like questions such as, “What do you do for work?”, Instead, try and keep the conversation fun.
You’ll be able to tell in a matter of seconds if your personalities click. So there is no need to straight up interogate a girl on her hobbies and interests in the hope of finding a connection.
Similarly to the opening line, keep your initial conversation simple and situational. For example, if you’re talking to a girl at the train station, ask where she’s heading today. Listen to the answer and build the conversation from there. If she replies to your question with “I’m heading to London”, try and think up something interesting to say about London in reply. Rather than just “Oh cool….”.
SHOW YOUR SENSE OF HUMOR
Laughter is the way to a woman’s heart, so if you can joke around she’ll be extremely receptive to the idea of meeting up with you again. You can reply to a serious question with a stupid answer. So if a girl asks what you do for work, reply with “I was put on this planet to find you, job done”.
BE DIRECT AND HONEST ABOUT YOUR INTENTIONS
Girls will respect you for it. Your honesty will show you have a backbone and are fearless in the face of rejection. If you don’t tell her you’re sexually interested, she’ll start to wonder why you’re talking to her in the first place. Or worse, she’ll assume you just want to be friends.
Be honest with everything you say. Women want a man who stands up for what he believes in. If you don’t agree with what she says, challenge her.
Think of something she wouldn’t normally expect a guy to acknowledge about her. And mean it. So rather than say something generic like “You’re gorgeous” instead say, “You have a really nice smile” or “I like your nose piercing…it suits you…they don’t on most girls”. Compliment a girl without putting her on a pedestal.
Make sure your compliment is non creepy or overtly sexual. Remember you’ve only just met. Telling a girl you think she’d look sexy in a bikini is a little overboard. Same goes for saying you couldn’t help but notice her tits.
LOOK FOR SIGNS SHE LIKES YOU
Once you can read the cues of interest women subconsciously put out there, you can start to escalate sexually. You need the reassurance a girl likes you before lunging in for the kiss. But never seek this reassurance verbally. It’s not cool to ask a girl “Is it ok if I kiss you?” You will break the spell of seduction.
Instead, learn to be observationally aware of the situation, pick up on the cues, and know the right time to smoothly go in for the kiss. For example, she holds eye contact with you from across the room, she laughs at all your jokes, or she playfully hits you on the shoulder.
But if a girl’s investment in the conversation is low – she’s not laughing at your jokes or giving you her full attention, then it’s probably best to end the conversation and walk away. Don’t waste your time. Just move on to the next girl7.
GET HER NUMBER
As a way of ending the conversation on a high note. It’s better to cut the conversation short than drag it out. The aim is to leave her wanting more. Say “It was great bumping into you, but I have to get going…. Let me get your number… it’d be cool to meet up again sometime”
Never leave the interaction empty-handed. The ultimate goal of pick up is to ‘close the deal’ in whatever shape or form that may be. Whether you exchange phone numbers, go in for the kiss, or take a girl home with you, ultimately depends on the situation.
If you meet a girl in Starbucks on your morning commute to work, you’d settle for a quick number exchange. Versus meeting a girl in a nightclub, you’d want to make out and possibly take her home with you.
Whatever the situation, be upfront and honest about your intentions and stick to the method above!
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