THE 2 MINUTE RULE
Most guys worry far too much about “What to say.” The truth is, you don’t need to be a verbal ninja to pick up girls in the daytime. Instead of worrying about what to say, focus on staying in the interaction for two minutes. Talk about the weather, talk about your Xbox. Let go of the pressure of being a witty guy, and instead, focus on staying in the interaction for 2 minutes, even if you consider your conversation topics to be boring. Staying in is the only way to learn the verbal game.
DON’T BE A BEGGAR
Most guys have this annoying, upwards vocal inflection. It sounds like a beggar asking for change. “What are you doing today?” Instead, keep either a neutral rapport like you would use while talking to your best friend. Record yourself on your cellphone if you’re not sure what you sound like.
STOP MAKING EXCUSES
“She has headphones,” “She’s in a group,” “She’s on the phone,” “She’s in a women’s lingerie store.” No matter what the perceived difficulty is, there is always a way to make it happen. Don’t let these little excuses and justifications stop you from meeting the girl of your dreams.
GO FOR THE LOW HANGING FRUIT
Go for quick wins first. Optimize your aesthetic – fashion, hair, grooming, and try to figure out your “style”. Dress in a good way, comfortable, but aim to stand out as much as possible. As a general rule of thumb, you can’t go wrong dressing like James Bond. You’ll want to aim for good quality branded items per outfit.
Aim for a good diet, and definitely gym work. Not only does it improve posture but it also makes you look more aesthetic and gives you that masculine aggression which is a good thing.
This is common sense advice but you’d be amazed how many guys I meet who don’t take it.
DO NOT OVERTHINK IT
Don’t try and “plan out” the interaction. Have maybe 2 – 3 openers ready – simple ones – and focus your attention on conveying your interest to her in a no nonsense way and giving her a specific compliment when you talk to her.
When you walk up to talk to her, your optimum state is to have a clear mind, not thinking about anything and focussing instead on her body, her ass, just appreciate her feminity, her beauty. Don’t think about it, let it flow through you and something that you love about her look will pop into your head when you talk to her. Tell her what you like about her. Focus on that.
The first 30 seconds are the most difficult. If you can get past that then you are on your way.
Do not worry about what to say – focus on the above. Pauses and silences are actually good if you are comfortable with it and don’t rush to fill them.
Remember if she likes you on some level, she won’t make it difficult – she’ll help you along.
You won’t get every girl. Things happen that will frustrate you. Rejection is normal. But sometimes the stars align and you can meet a girl and be in bed with her in less than an hour. It blows your mind and makes it all worth it in the end.
Create a state of mind where rather than having to get a result you’re perfectly fine and playful whether or not you get the results you want.
GETTING HER PHONE NUMBER IF NOT THE GOAL
This is a common, huge mistake that many guys make by trying ti get a woman’s phone number. They have this behaviour of “hey give me your phone number”. Well you can walk up to someone and hold a gun to her head and say “give me your phone number or you’re dead” – You got the phone number but did you get your outcome?
So what you really want to do is not get a phone number. You want to create fascination and curiosity, leaving her hungry for more. Once you do that the phone number becomes secondary. I’ve had situations where I’ve talked to women who were sitting at the bar at a hotel and they’re in town for just the night and I’m not going to get their phone number, they want to go upstairs. In the first five to ten minutes, you want to get her curious and intrigued, you want to get some playfulness and some comfort and a little bit of sexual tension.
Let’s say you see a woman passing in the street. You walk over and say “excuse me, I was going that way but when I saw you, you stopped me dead in my tracks and I had to come over”. That’s so flattering like wow – I stopped dead in my tracks!
1When walking past her, look for eye contact, and/or something that you could open with (something about her, something to comment on, etc.). Regardless of if she notices you or not, or if you notice anything specific or not, soon after she passes you, turn back and approach her from the side (not from behind).
Excuse yourself (“Excuse me …”). If you just start talking, you will startle and confuse her, and you will likely be ignored. You need to get her attention. This should stop her. Pay attention to if and how she stops. The ideal is that she both stops, and faces you.
Open her. Whatever it is that you wanted to say to her, now is the time. What was it that you noticed about her? Was she dressed interestingly? Was there something that you noticed about her? Was it simply that she was beautiful?
If it doesn’t land – next! It’s nothing personal, you just don’t click with some people. If it lands, make some chitchat for a few minutes, tell her that you will let her get back to whatever it was that she was going, and close! Don’t walk off without asking for that phone number.
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